Top 15 Esther Perel Love Quotes and Sayings
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About Esther Perel
Esther Perel is a Belgian psychotherapist and bestselling author who is recognized as one of today’s most insightful and original voices on modern relationships.
Esther is a psychotherapist who has explored the tension between the need for security (love, belonging, and closeness) and the need for freedom (erotic desire, adventure, and distance) in human relationships. [1]
In her bestseller book Mating in Captivity, Esther draws on observations made during her decades of experience as a practicing psychotherapist. The book explores the ways sexual passion and long-term security are often at odds and highlights important issues couples face as they navigate the committed relationships. (Get the audiobook for free)
In the book Perel explains that our cultural penchant for equality, togetherness, and absolute candor is antithetical to erotic desire for both men and women. Sexual excitement doesn’t always play by the rules of good citizenship. It is politically incorrect. It thrives on power plays, unfair advantages, and the space between self and other. More exciting, playful, even poetic sex is possible, but first, we must kick egalitarian ideals and emotional housekeeping out of our bedrooms.
Esther Perel Love Quotes and Sayings
Here are the most powerful love quotes by Esther Perel:
Love is at once an affirmation and a transcendence of who we are.
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Love rests on two pillars: surrender and autonomy. Our need for togetherness exists alongside our need for separateness.
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Love is a vessel that contains both security and adventure, and commitment offers one of the great luxuries of life: time.
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Love enjoys knowing everything about you; desire needs mystery.
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Through love we imagine a new way of being. You see me as I’ve never seen myself.
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Love is an exercise in selective perception.
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Tell me how you were loved, and I will tell you how to make love.
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When marriage was an economic arrangement, infidelity threatened our economic security; today marriage is a romantic arrangement and infidelity threatens our emotional security.
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It’s our imagination that’s responsible for love, not the other person.
Love is an exercise in selective perception, even a delicious deception as well, though who cares about that in the beginning?Esther Perel
A life story is not a love story. You can love a lot more people than you can make a life with.
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Once we strayed because marriage was not supposed to deliver love and passion. Today we stray because marriage fails to deliver the love, passion, and undivided attention it promised.
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One of the very first ways you learn to love yourself is by being loved by others and loving them back.
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Love likes to shrink the distance that exists between me and you, while desire is energized by it.
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Love and desire are not the same. Cozy is not the same as sexy
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It’s a verb. That’s the first thing. It’s an active engagement with all kinds of feelings — positive ones and primitive ones and loathsome ones. But it’s a very active verb. And it’s often surprising how it can kind of ebb and flow. It’s like the moon. We think it’s disappeared, and suddenly it shows up again. It’s not a permanent state of enthusiasm.
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Originally published at https://motiveex.com on August 23, 2020.
