21 Insightful Esther Perel Relationship Quotes and Sayings
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About Esther Perel
Esther Perel is a Belgian psychotherapist and bestselling author who is recognized as one of today’s most insightful and original voices on modern relationships.
Esther is a psychotherapist who has explored the tension between the need for security (love, belonging, and closeness) and the need for freedom (erotic desire, adventure, and distance) in human relationships. [1]
In her bestseller book Mating in Captivity, Esther draws on observations made during her decades of experience as a practicing psychotherapist. The book explores the ways sexual passion and long-term security are often at odds and highlights important issues couples face as they navigate the committed relationships.
Her celebrated TED talks have garnered over 20 million views and her international bestseller Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence became a global phenomenon translated into 25 languages.
Esther Perel Relationship Quotes
Here are the most powerful success lessons from the Esther Perel relationship quotes:
Listen. Just listen. You don’t have to agree. Just see if you can understand that there’s another person who has a completely different experience of the same reality.
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When you pick a partner, you pick a story, and that story becomes the life you live.
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I have never really participated in the notion that men don’t talk, men can’t talk about their pains. I mean, they have a different way of going about it. Sometimes they need more time, and you just have to shut up and wait — be quiet. And if you don’t interrupt, it will come.
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love is a vessel that contains both security and adventure, and commitment offers one of the great luxuries of life: time. Marriage is not the end of romance, it is the beginning.
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Your relationships are your story. Write well. Edit often.
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The “symptom” theory goes as follows: An affair simply alerts us to a preexisting condition, either a troubled relationship or a troubled person.
If you want to change a relationship, you need to change yourself. Own what’s yours.Esther Perel
repair. You need to be able to go back, if you’ve lost it, which happens, and say ‘I bought in my dirty tricks, I’m sorry’, or ‘You know what, I realized I didn’t hear a single word you said because I was so upset, can we talk about it again?’”
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Criticism and bickering in a relationship can feel like low intensity, chronic warfare. Kick the bickering, stat.
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The grand illusion of committed love is that we think our partners are ours. In truth, their separateness is unassailable, and their mystery is forever ungraspable.
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Longevity is not the only indicator of a successful relationship.
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Esther Perel Relationship Quotes #11:
Navigating relationships and cultivating relational intelligence are key to your professional success.
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It’s hard to feel attracted to someone who has abandoned her sense of autonomy.
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Allow yourself to feel more deeply the otherness of your partner. You never really possess each other. You just think you do.
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The quality of your life ultimately depends on the quality of your relationships . . . which are basically a reflection of your sense of decency, your ability to think of others, your generosity.
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It takes two people to create a pattern, but only one to change it.
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Instead of looking for a person who checks all the boxes, focus on a person with whom you can imagine yourself writing a story with that entails edits and revisions.
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The idea of finding the one is problematic for relationships.
there is more than a hint of arrogance in the assumption that we can make our relationships permanent.Esther Perel
The smaller we feel in the world, the more we need to shine in the eyes of our partner.
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If you start to feel that you have given up too many parts of yourself to be with your partner, then one day you will end up looking for another person in order to reconnect with those lost parts.
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The more you enter the relationship of others, the more you understand yourself.
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In our individualistic society, we have replaced rules with conversation. Everything today in relationships is a negotiation.
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Originally published at https://motiveex.com on December 15, 2020.
